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Work Stuff
Aug. 1st, 2005 01:30 pmWhere to start?
On Friday I had my very first one on one with my new manager. During the course of our conversation she had said that she would always be up front with me and that she would never give me misinformation, which I figured was the case anyway. We talked about my wanting to increase some caligbration sessions with one of my vendors and she said she would check with someone whose name I had not heard before. "I thought it was 'so and so' that we worked with there, correct?" She said that I was questioning her information and I tried to explain that I wasn't familiar with the person she mentioned and I wanted to make sure if it was someone I would need to know about in the future. Then the convo turned to areas of opportunity for me, and she mentioned that she had asked my previous team leader about my strengths and opportunities. She mentioned that I need to be more aware of my audience when I say things (which I will agree is something I always need to work on). She used an example from earlier in the week when she and I had crossed paths on the way to our desks and she mentioned that she was leaving early to meet with her insurance agent, and I asked why. She said that is wasn't any of my business. I had only asked to be polite, but she felt is was personal info. I told her I asked to be polite and she felt that type of question was more intrusive than polite. Okay, no more personal questions about the boss - check!
After we got over that little hump I asked her if my previous TL had indicated any strengths along with my opportunities and she got mad. "This is upsetting to me," or something along those lines was said. I was confused. Why would that be upsetting? I respected my former TL's opinion and I thought nothing of asking if something had been said. I expressed that to her but for some reason it was like there was thins huge communication gap between us and I couldn't bridge it for the life of me. So basically I walked away a bit confused, and somewhat wiser. I shall tread lightly around her for now, at least until I have a better understanding of her and how she thinks.
I was puzzled by the exchange over the entire weekend. Why would someone get mad about a person asking a question like that? Isn't it perfectly normal for anyone to be curious about something that may have been said about them? The only conclusion I could come to was that she had said she would never give me misinformation and she felt I was questioning her and the information she provided me, not only with the vedor folks but again with the TL info, and perhaps that was the reason she got upset. I decided not to dwell on it, but once again, I will tread lightly for the time being until I can get a handle on her personality.
Still, it just puzzled me. I guess, in the end, I just miss working with the folks I used to work with at AT&T Wireless. It was a lot less confusing back there....
On Friday I had my very first one on one with my new manager. During the course of our conversation she had said that she would always be up front with me and that she would never give me misinformation, which I figured was the case anyway. We talked about my wanting to increase some caligbration sessions with one of my vendors and she said she would check with someone whose name I had not heard before. "I thought it was 'so and so' that we worked with there, correct?" She said that I was questioning her information and I tried to explain that I wasn't familiar with the person she mentioned and I wanted to make sure if it was someone I would need to know about in the future. Then the convo turned to areas of opportunity for me, and she mentioned that she had asked my previous team leader about my strengths and opportunities. She mentioned that I need to be more aware of my audience when I say things (which I will agree is something I always need to work on). She used an example from earlier in the week when she and I had crossed paths on the way to our desks and she mentioned that she was leaving early to meet with her insurance agent, and I asked why. She said that is wasn't any of my business. I had only asked to be polite, but she felt is was personal info. I told her I asked to be polite and she felt that type of question was more intrusive than polite. Okay, no more personal questions about the boss - check!
After we got over that little hump I asked her if my previous TL had indicated any strengths along with my opportunities and she got mad. "This is upsetting to me," or something along those lines was said. I was confused. Why would that be upsetting? I respected my former TL's opinion and I thought nothing of asking if something had been said. I expressed that to her but for some reason it was like there was thins huge communication gap between us and I couldn't bridge it for the life of me. So basically I walked away a bit confused, and somewhat wiser. I shall tread lightly around her for now, at least until I have a better understanding of her and how she thinks.
I was puzzled by the exchange over the entire weekend. Why would someone get mad about a person asking a question like that? Isn't it perfectly normal for anyone to be curious about something that may have been said about them? The only conclusion I could come to was that she had said she would never give me misinformation and she felt I was questioning her and the information she provided me, not only with the vedor folks but again with the TL info, and perhaps that was the reason she got upset. I decided not to dwell on it, but once again, I will tread lightly for the time being until I can get a handle on her personality.
Still, it just puzzled me. I guess, in the end, I just miss working with the folks I used to work with at AT&T Wireless. It was a lot less confusing back there....
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